It's very hard for a Counselor to be called in at the last minute, when the relationship is actually over, and one party has their mind made up. There is very little a Counselor can do in this situation. Typically the divorcing party has exhausted themselves in the relationship and can't bear the pain anymore. Often they've moved on and found relief with another person. Whatever the reason, it's a very sad situation for all involved.
A relationship, like all living things, has a point where it is no longer able to survive. Without the right "care and feeding" it will die. It's important to get the right help before it's too late. So what does the right help look like for a relationship? There are many books, methods, seminars available that outline plans for relationships. It is important to have a plan, BUT as with anything the skill in implementing the plan, the intuition and art of when and how to execute the steps, is what achieves long term results and successful change. There are many action steps to be taken, but without acquiring specific skills first, they may fail. Just doing something different, without first understanding why we do what we currently do, usually won't last. We must understand the feeling and beliefs that guide our behavior and choose to change without feeling forced or controlled. Past hurts require closure and resolution. Otherwise they continue to poison our perspective on the present. This is the work of relationship maintenance. Like a plant it requires appropriately timed food, water, pruning & staking. Like a plant, once its dried up and dead, it cant' be revived.
The moral of this story is that if your relationship is showing signs of distress, don't wait! A quick application of skills and removal of toxins will produce a beautiful, healthy, fulfilling result. Our relationships are very important assets in our lives. They are worth maintaining and saving. They are worth the effort.