Now that 2020 is officially in full swing and we're done with the parties and family celebrations, it's time to get started on actually making things happen for us! We all know we're supposed to come up with our New Year's Resolutions. How many of us really go there, past the common goals of losing weight, starting a budget,and being a better person?
I want to offer you some thoughts to get you started to making some meaningful changes for the new year. First of all studies have shown that there are some main reasons why we don't actually stick with our resolutions. To make changes we need to have a plan. The problem is that these action steps needed to create change aren't an easy road to take. But there are deeper reasons in play that often we aren't even aware of, keeping us from planning those critical action steps. I'm going to give you a thought to get you started, and to hopefully get you past your default setting when it comes to change, to a fresh space of growth and freedom for this new year. Before anything in our lives can change we need to change our minds first and be open to new direction.
Consider how your present way of doing things may provide some short term benefits, but hold you back in the big picture. If there is a positive, benefit to what we are doing, we will often talk ourselves out of giving that up. Change frequently requires giving something up, which feels like a loss. We hold on, hoarding what we have, rather than realizing that sometimes you have to let go to move forward.
I had a client who was teaching part time at a Trade School.This was an honor and he considered it one of his life achievements. He was proud of this accomplishment. Each semester it took a lot of time and effort to teach the class and prepare the lessons. He noticed that he was very tired during the time he taught a course and that it drained him. This was a part time job on top of his full time work. As we explored his full time work and what that meant to him, he realized there was a lot he wanted to do in his full time job area that he lacked the energy to follow through with. After talking through the situation he was able to come to understand that the teaching was actually holding him back from expanding and growing in his main job and life in general. It took courage to let go of something that appeared as a good thing, but in the bigger context of life, it was actually preventing further growth and new experiences. One of the best things about therapy is that it can help you see the big picture, explore your options, potential outcomes and come to the best decision for you. He was able to let go of the teaching position and open up his life to new possibilities that gave him energy rather than continuing to do what looked good, but actually was limiting.
What are you holding on to that may be holding you back from having the time and energy to discover something new? Is it time to Let Go!
I want to offer you some thoughts to get you started to making some meaningful changes for the new year. First of all studies have shown that there are some main reasons why we don't actually stick with our resolutions. To make changes we need to have a plan. The problem is that these action steps needed to create change aren't an easy road to take. But there are deeper reasons in play that often we aren't even aware of, keeping us from planning those critical action steps. I'm going to give you a thought to get you started, and to hopefully get you past your default setting when it comes to change, to a fresh space of growth and freedom for this new year. Before anything in our lives can change we need to change our minds first and be open to new direction.
Consider how your present way of doing things may provide some short term benefits, but hold you back in the big picture. If there is a positive, benefit to what we are doing, we will often talk ourselves out of giving that up. Change frequently requires giving something up, which feels like a loss. We hold on, hoarding what we have, rather than realizing that sometimes you have to let go to move forward.
I had a client who was teaching part time at a Trade School.This was an honor and he considered it one of his life achievements. He was proud of this accomplishment. Each semester it took a lot of time and effort to teach the class and prepare the lessons. He noticed that he was very tired during the time he taught a course and that it drained him. This was a part time job on top of his full time work. As we explored his full time work and what that meant to him, he realized there was a lot he wanted to do in his full time job area that he lacked the energy to follow through with. After talking through the situation he was able to come to understand that the teaching was actually holding him back from expanding and growing in his main job and life in general. It took courage to let go of something that appeared as a good thing, but in the bigger context of life, it was actually preventing further growth and new experiences. One of the best things about therapy is that it can help you see the big picture, explore your options, potential outcomes and come to the best decision for you. He was able to let go of the teaching position and open up his life to new possibilities that gave him energy rather than continuing to do what looked good, but actually was limiting.
What are you holding on to that may be holding you back from having the time and energy to discover something new? Is it time to Let Go!
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